The Evolution of the NetDoms

They seem to be getting savvy, or at least have learned how to be charming, if not sincere.

For some unknown reason, I impulsively made accounts on one of those Insta-Meet Hookup sites and it's sister site, which is mostly people from the hookup site but they are supposedly kinky. Practically no one on either site can fathom that sex and BDSM do not necessarily mesh. Almost all the wanna-be Doms believe I need to be beaten. The majority of the inexperienced males who want to learn think it's my responsibility to teach them.

But they're getting sneaky. I had one contact me, rather respectfully at the beginning. He was curious about me and my submission. I referred him to some books and articles about service-oriented submissives. He was curious about my vanilla life as well. Kept asking me to let him take me to concerts or dinner.

He said there was so much more about the lifestyle and my version of it that he wants to learn. So I asked him what more would he like to know? BIG mistake.

From there, I got entire paragraphs detailing all the beatings, blood and bruises he saw from watching pornography and he thought BDSM was all about sex and role-play. He found it all very graphic and wondered why I liked sex like that all the time.

So I had to set him straight; that not everyone into BDSM is into that. That I prefer the mental aspect more than the physical. That what mainstream media portrays as BDSM is just one of a multitude of facets.

So he thanked me and still wanted to meet, even though he cannot be the Dominant I need. I agreed to meet as long as he realized it would be strictly platonic. His response was, "No vanilla sex? Then never mind. But contact me if you change your mind."

I'm never going to change my mind, lol.


*originally posted on May 09, 2019 on Fetlife.

Comments

  1. JNJune 29, 2024 at 3:53 PM

    Even in the vanilla world, dudes harbor so many fantasies from watching porn and never realize that what they see in porn ain't real 🙄

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  2. Bow and Arrow ManJune 30, 2024 at 1:10 AM

    Porn has a lot to answer for!

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