The Prerogative to Evolve (or Not)


Every person I encounter impacts my outlook on my kink. Few people have had a major impact on my kink to the point that my limits have changed.

But the heart and soul of my submission has not changed. I am still service-oriented. Because I received training in Mental BDSM doesn't mean that I'm going to be on board with verbal degradation and humiliation. Allowing someone to demo a flogger on me doesn't mean I've suddenly become a masochist who craves beatings.

I applaud those of you who have found your "comfort zone" within this wondrous and hedonistic world. But please don't think that I want to be in that box with you. Like Belle from Beauty and the Beast, I want adventure in the great wide somewhere!


*Originally posted on May 22, 2019 on Fetlife.


Comments

  1. Debbi (Enigma)June 29, 2024 at 4:53 AM

    I prefer to allow my sexuality to evolve over time rather than just stick to one thing. Humiliation, though, has never been my thing

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  2. Bow and Arrow ManJune 29, 2024 at 5:15 AM

    It's good you know where you are sexually.

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  3. JNJune 29, 2024 at 4:06 PM

    Over the years, I've figured out what I like and dislike. Even in the vanilla world, it's aggravating when dudes don't respect your boundaries.

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